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A Lesson For All Of Us  

New2Midlo 54M
653 posts
10/7/2021 7:35 am

Last Read:
10/13/2021 7:27 pm

A Lesson For All Of Us


While I tend gravitate toward Top Gun as a timeless story that helps me to understand and address any situation, 's another tale I find particularly useful, from a relationship perspective. While would have been more helpful post this while I was writing about my relationships and encounters, better late than never.

was once a man discovered a alligator in his back yard. Being an animal lover, he was afraid the poor thing would perish, being separated from its , so he took in and raised as a pet, naming Ricky. This man loved Ricky unconditionally and lavished him with attention. He gave Ricky and fed him the best alligator chow. In order for Ricky to feel like he was in its natural habitat, he had an enclosed lagoon built in his back yard, with a tub for when the gator was stressed. He was positive his love and these gestures got through to the now full grown alligator, suppressing the beast's natural predatory instinct.

One day, he was<b> teaching </font></b>Ricky how to fetch, when Ricky decided fetch him and mauled him death.

When the man awoke at the pearly gates, face face with Saint Peter, he was dumbfounded and heartbroken.

"I don't understand how this happened! I loved Ricky with all my heart and did everything I could demonstrate my affection. Yet, he mauled me death!"

Saint Peter responded, "What do you expect? He was an alligator and that's what alligators do, you dumb shit!"

The moral of the story is that regardless of how sincere and earnest your actions, you can't change the nature of another and can lose your head over it. Literally.

Perhaps some context would be of value here. This post has nothing to do with illegal aliens r1ping and pillaging. Not sure how anyone would make that leap, but that's a subject for another day. The first time I shared this story was during my divorce. True to her word, my borderline ex wife was pulling every underhanded trick she could to punish me for abandoning her. A couple of friends couldn't understand why I wasn't livid over her nasty stunts. My answer was that a borderline was like an alligator. Her brain was wired to hate me, so why get angry over something she couldn't control? have been other instances where this story has applied (e. others with abandonment issues) as well.

Audio video here ://youtu.be/QtBDL8EiNZo

New2Midlo 54M
1075 posts
10/7/2021 7:35 am

Oh, and Saint Peter can be a jerk.


Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
10/7/2021 9:11 am

I don't blame the alligator. Should of found out from a expert what to do with him. His own fault. Not a true story I know but those things really happen.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:21 pm:
That's the message of the story. You can't blame someone or something for what they have no control over, when you're aware of said lack.

Brownie202 67F  
2680 posts
10/7/2021 9:14 am

    Quoting  :

So Americans don't assault or kill? No molesting torture?

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


lindoboy100 61M
23969 posts
10/7/2021 9:36 am

I was trying to think of something clever to say here McMid, but I was somewhat distracted by the astonishing response above mine........errrrmmm......what?!?!?!!?!

Anyways, aye, I think this tale of Ricky the alligator could be taken a number of ways.....does it speak to a bad experience, were you fleeced?


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:22 pm:
It seems I'm becoming a magnet for the right wing folks. At least there was no ranting about vaccine mandates.

I've added some context to the story that should help with origins / motivation of sharing it.

seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
10/7/2021 11:08 am

A Leopard never changes it's spots


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
10/7/2021 12:43 pm

I wonder at those people who have boa constrictors as pets. Why? Just why?
Is it a macho thing? Anyway, I think I get the meaning.


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:26 pm:
The story is a metaphor for human behavior where mental illness may be present.

As for snakes, they're my only irrational fear. Ewww...

CL_Love 51M/50F
425 posts
10/11/2021 11:11 am

You can't expect the alligator to not be an alligator, but you can avoid getting killed/eaten. I don't expect people to change, but I do remove myself from being their whipping post sometimes.


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